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"All things therefore whatsoever you would that men should do to you, do you also to them. For this is the law and the prophets." Matthew 7:12 Douay-Rheims
Those men and women of the machismo and chauvinism persuasion (aka prideful selfish using control freaks over the other gender) love to misuse and abuse the following Scripture, so it is time to put an end to this in Mexico and the USA.
First the Scripture and then the reality check from 2 Popes:
Douay-Rheims Bible Ephesians 5:21-33
"Being subject one to another, in the fear of Christ. Let women be subject to their husbands, as to the Lord: Because the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. He is the saviour of his body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so also let the wives be to their husbands in all things.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church, and delivered himself up for it: That he might sanctify it, cleansing it by the laver of water in the word of life: That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any; such thing; but that it should be holy, and without blemish. So also ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife, loveth himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, as also Christ doth the church: Because we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they shall be two in one flesh. This is a great sacrament; but I speak in Christ and in the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular love his wife as himself: and let the wife fear her husband."
Since only unloving selfish bullies who don't love their wives, want their wives to be their non-thinking obedient slaves, and anyone who is unloving has no Truth in him; therefore any man using these verses in order to try to make his wife obey his wants/desires, is wrong, because he is unloving and therefore has no Truth.
Pope Pius XI taught in 1930 (Casti connubii, 10 cf. The Navarre Bible — Captivity Epistles):
“The submission of the wife neither ignores nor suppresses the liberty to which her dignity as a human person and her noble functions as wife, mother, and companion give her the full right."
"It does not oblige her to yield indiscriminately to all the desires of her husband; and his desires may be unreasonable or incompatible with her wifely dignity."
"It does not mean that she is on a level with persons who in law are called minors. And minors are ordinarily denied the unrestricted exercise of their rights because of their immature judgment and not having enough experience."
And Saint Pope John Paul II concludes: “Husband and wife are, in fact, ‘subject to one another,’ mutually subordinated to one another. The source of this reciprocal submission lies in Christian pietas and its expression is love.”
Saint Pope John Paul II also states:
"While the analogy used in Ephesians clarifies the mystery of the relationship between Christ and the Church, at the same time, it reveals the essential truth about marriage, namely, that marriage corresponds to the vocation of Christians only when it mirrors the love that Christ, the Bridegroom, gives to the Church, his Bride, and which the Church (in likeness to the wife who is “subject,” and thus completely given) seeks to give back to Christ in return."
Directly according to Christ, "Headship" means to serve and "submission" means to be served. Any authority regardless of gender or age who is afraid / worried about being "obeyed" is failing to serve; failing to imitate Christ. For Christ said to His Apostles, "The kings of the Gentiles lord it over them, and those who bear rule over them win the name of benefactors. With you it is not to be so; no difference is to be made, among you, between the greatest and the youngest of all, between him who commands and him who serves. Tell me, which is greater, the man who sits at table, or the man who serves him? Surely the man who sits at table; yet I am here among you as your servant." Luke 22:25-27